the world are complex where to draw the lines in an ethical fashion is not always clear to those of us that is biologically divergent in our ease of loving strangers. for most people, the model about closeness is quite clear, we are thus working with acquaintance, friend and family in our model. as it turns out the act of eating and fucking together means different things, in these different contextual containers. what might be profane for example sex work in one context is sacred in another context passion and reverence. the closeness of l o v e are thus spelled p o w e r dynamics. what you realize early on is that models does not need to overlap, there can be inconsistencies of abstractions. for example seen from polarity we all have animus and anima, these are the masculine and feminine archetypes and what's more we have an immature and an mature variation of these, we prefer to call these prehuman and human variations of the masculine and the feminine archetypes. the prehuman is about eating and fucking and thus p o w e r, the human is nested inside that as the capacity to l o v e. | | animus | anima | | -------------- | ------------- | ---------------------- | | prehuman power | arrogant, ect | attention seeking, ect | | human loving | humble, ect | self-assured, ect | all who have watched pornography knows that the sexual intercourse on these websites are not expressions of the mature masculine and feminine. this is because consumer society in general, what we regard as the profane does not involve the mature masculine and feminine at all, not even close. instead people are trained to live through there lives in consumer society, as immature versions of who they could become. another way of expressing the same thing, is through the idea of addictions to power and allergies to love. thankfully, the mature feminine and the mature masculine is a capacity in each of us, when we are faced with the immature feminine, we can choose to respond with the mature masculine, and the reverse. further listening and reading [50 Misconceptions of Sex](https://www.audible.com/ac/50-Misconceptions-of-Sex-Audiobook/B08RRPMXZ5) [Inner Marrage](https://www.audible.com/pd/The-Inner-Marriage-Audiobook/B0BNJHWVRD?source_code=ASSGB149080119000H&share_location=pdp) [Digital libido](https://a.co/d/hszZTD7) [Religion of Tomorrow](https://a.co/d/gJSaWsh) [Erotic Intelligence](https://a.co/d/hF8Zqiw)